Escalation of Commitment
Power Struggles, Communication problems; and Unresolved Emotional Issues
|Every time I show you vibes
| you cannot see it
|Every time I tell the truth
| you don't believe it
|Don't tell me I don't know
|about commitment!Why are we committed to echo chambers?
External Perspectives
Do you seek victory rather than wisdom?
“The wise win before the fight while the ignorant fight to win,” - Zhuge Liang
If you have an opportunity to engage with an external perspective, especially within a pre-established community of trust, consider letting your guard down. Place some temporary trust in your colleague. They are trying to connect with you. Don’t try to debunk the information they are sharing, certainly not as your opening gambit.
Set Limits
Try consuming at least 5% of your content from external perspectives. Doing this has asymmetric upside FOR YOU because at worst its an insurance policy for blindspotting. At best you might expand your subject-matter-horizons. At very best you might blow-your-mind and change your mind! [Yes, some people still do that in 2025.]
Be Open to Re-evaluating
If you find yourself consuming > 5% external content over time, you might benefit from positional rebalancing. Updating your default instructions in the presence of wisdom should be an end in itself.
Focus on Future Outcomes
Do you want to spend your time defending the past or projecting the future? Why are you in a committed relationship if you don’t allow yourself to let go and connect …
Acknowledge Sunk Costs
Admit and be open to rational defeat and reframe defeat as YOUR intellectual victory.
|Don't tell me I don't know
about commitment
|When I was the only one to
show you different